A few months ago, I called my daughter and she answered the phone in the most jovial voice and said, "Hey Mom, how you livin?!" I paused for a moment, I smiled as I was happy to hear her happy voice but didn't know how to answer with a quick follow-up that was as upbeat as her greeting. I believe I responded with the usual, "I'm fine" and our conversation went on - we were just catching up. It was a mediocre, status-quo and standard response.
I've thought of that phrase that is probably a standard in a younger generation these days but from my perspective and the context of how it was asked makes a difference. It's not the passing "How Ya' Livin' " it's more like:
What does moving forward look like and how do you move forward when you are stuck?*
We all know how much we invest time, energy and money to lose weight or reshape our bodies. We diet, buy work out clothes, buy fitness equipment, videos, apps, join the gym, sign up for fitness challenges, run marathons and running or walking groups, etc... It's great that we are tuned in to the investment to physically keep ourselves together and hopefully the outcomes are what we envision for ourselves - beautiful bodies, healthy hearts and bodies. I'm all up for the investing in the physical!
What I want you to think about is investing in your lifestyle. Investing in a lifestyle that is uplifting, is colorful not drab, clutter free, organized, and free from overwhelming circumstances. And if you don't know how to get on that track (just as if you were investing in the equipment to work out) - invest in "how-to" books, invest in a life or personal development coach, invest time in a spiritual course, invest time on relaxing out doors, putting away the social media for a while, invest in plants and flowers for your garden, get new containers and file cabinets to organize the clutter, clean your windows and eat good clean food! So when someone asks you "How you livin'?! You'll be able to say, "I am living well!" A great response for what you are doing for yourself!
*Please note, I'm an experiential lay person without any certification for psychotherapy, counseling or even coaching (yet) but I make these statements based my own experiences, readings, teachings and learning. Resources that I appreciate will provided in a post very soon.
Kathy A Hampton is a writer, storyteller- focused on "wellness writing"; research analyst, creative thinker and advocate; she has a love for learning and is the author of the forth coming book On a Good Day My Sister Speaks Mandarin. Educated - Howard University, Army Brat, Hometown - San Francisco; currently residing -Newark, NJ